Many of us spend years in confusion, anger and grief about the mother relationship, trying to make sense of what happened.
The relationship with the mother, who is usually the primary caretaker, is the first imprint we receive about how to be in intimate relationships. We learn who we are in relationships and who we need to be to get our needs met. This imprint continues into adulthood, affecting ALL our relationships, especially our most intimate ones.
The mother wound might feel so deep and fundamental, and like it will never be healed. Know that this is NOT true. You can undo the years of criticism, comparison, and neglect. Yes, it takes time, focus and commitment, but you CAN change your inner narrative, and your life story, and befriend that wounded part of yourself. You can have secure, intimate relationships and choose to be a different mother or father to your children.
Please let me know how the mother wound shows up for you in the comments.
Love on your healing journey, Jen