This is a question that I am often asked by friends and sometimes clients who are worried about burdening me with their pain. I’m not sure if it is because of my many years of spiritual practice or because of …
Tag: healing journey
Pema Chodron Quote
How would it be to be the sky today? To know that everything else is just the weather?
Relationship Rituals to Help with Connection
As a couple counsellor and wife of 18 years, I know that intimacy doesn’t just happen. It has to be cultivated. There are so many different ways to let your partner know that they are special, that you are thinking …
Tips For The 5 Relationship Stages
As a couple therapist, I see people repeatedly move through all of these stages. If you do this well, you build an increasingly solid foundation for your relationship. Sometimes, however, we get stuck in the struggle and repair phase, especially …
10,000 Hours
I did a back-of-the-envelope calculation to work out how many hours of trauma therapy I had done in my career. The answer is about 15,600 hours. The interesting thing is that I am not burnt out. I LOVE what I …
Spiritual Life
If you like the research – check out this paper: Neuroanatomical Correlates of Religiosity and Spirituality
How Do You Know When To Let Go of a Relationship?
Have you ever experienced the confusion and struggle of not knowing whether you should stay or leave a relationship? The part that wants to stay might see the good in your partner or be afraid of being alone or scared …
Apology Accepted. Access Denied.
It’s okay to accept an apology. We all make mistakes. It’s also okay to have a new boundary that keeps you safe.
3 Fears of the Anxiously Attached
All of these fears come from somewhere. Fear of abandonment: When do you remember people not being there for you the way you needed them to be? Fear of not being good enough: Where did you learn that your needs …
3 Fears of the Anxiously Attached
Remember that anxious attachment is a strategy you have learnt to maintain closeness with your special person. These fears can all be addressed by building internal and external secure attachment.