“A trigger is when something happens and we have an emotional reaction that seems stronger than the situation calls for. Something has happened that has caused your internal alarm system to go off. This is a moment to be curious …
Tag: healing journey
My New Book; Heal Your Anxious Attachment
Anxious attachment is a healthy adaptation. All behaviour, when viewed through the lens of your history, makes sense. Always. As children, when met with inconsistency in our caregivers are faced with two choices. Either stay close to the carer and …
Episode 23: 7 Tips for Dating For The Anxiously Attached
When you are anxiously attached, the dating phase of a relationship can be painful, triggering and confusing. It is often difficult to know if your gut feelings of anxiety are real and valid, or if it is your anxious attachment …
Conflict in Relationships
FREE Track YOUR negative Cycle. I have a FREE resource to help you get awareness of your negative cycle. This frustrating cycle usually makes you both feel more disconnected than ever. Learning what your negative cycle is so you can …
When Consistency is Boring
I see a lot of people run when met with consistency. Why? When you are used to intimate relationships being chaotic, unstable and unpredictable, you end up living in a constant state of stress (sympathetic activation/fight or flight). This state …
Slowing Down
Today, I’m intentionally slowing down. One of the best ways to do that is to walk more slowly. I tend to walk with no time to spare, with the top of my body leaning a little forward. I think it …
What’s Important to Your Partner
Know what is important to your partner and make it important to you, too.I’m not talking about what kind of food they like, I’m talking about the big things, the things that your partner feels passionate about.If they feel passionate …
Marriage Tips from a Happily Married Couple (18 years) with Two Teenage Children
Which one resonates the most for you, 1-8? Let me know in the comments Love, Jen
Corrective Experiences
Whenever I make a mistake, and my husband responds with kind eyes and a soft, warm voice, he gives me a corrective experience. Let me explain. When I was born, my father was 52 years old. He was old enough …
Shape-Shifting
When we people-please, it is often the younger parts of us that are afraid of being rejected or hurt that take over.