If you have grown up with a family system that is terrified of separation, that places family above all else, the thought of taking a break can be both terrifying and wonderful. It can be terrifying when you just think …
Tag: family dynamics
How To Heal From Scapegoating
Healing from scapegoating can take time because the role of scapegoat has been imprinted on you for such a long time. The first step is to validate the effect the behaviour has had on you. This is best done with …
If You Have Been Scapegoated, You Might Experience Any Number Of These.
A friend of mine was labelled the scapegoat in her family. She was repeatedly told that she was too volatile and ‘crazy.’ She was scapegoated for everything, including things she had absolutely nothing to do with. It took her two …
The Scapegoat
When there is a family scapegoat, everyone benefits, except the scapegoat. With the presence of a designated scapegoat, there may be a lot of hidden dysfunction. It can be much easier to hide an abusive marriage with the presence of …
The Effects of Bringing Your Children into Your Conflicts
One of the most common examples of this is during a divorce. Both parents are vying for the emotional support of the children. They are consciously manipulating the children to align with them. This might take the form of comments …
Family Dynamics in the Workplace
Has anyone here run away from your family of origin only to find the same dynamics being played out at work? For many people, the answer is YES!!! Why is that? In my view, this is our psyche trying to …
Family Secrets
Did you have to hold a secret for an adult in your family? Keeping secrets in families, especially across generations can be harmful for the family and the holder of the secret. Take the example above. Here the mother and …