I’ll be apart from my husband for 29 days in November. I’m taking a retreat to India, and he will visit family in the USA. We have one day to connect between flights in the middle of November. I had …
Tag: Connection
Conflict and Connection
Conflict provides an opportunity for a deeper connection. Most of us are not taught this. We are taught that conflict is scary and to be avoided. We might have learnt from our family of origin that conflict results in physical …
Loneliness
I’m a natural introvert. For me, that means that I enjoy time to myself. When I feel tired, my natural inclination is to rest and spend time alone. This allows me to focus on and nurture myself. I don’t have …
Relationships Are Built, Not Found.
Intimacy is not measured on a consistent upward continuum. Instead, it is a wiggly upward line. Naturally, there are times in your relationship when you feel more or less connected. More connected – on a date night, with time and …
Don’t Offer Advice to Someone Who Needs A Hug
When we offer advice, we are staying in our left brain. That’s the rational, logical part of our extraordinary brain. We need this part to manage time, get practical things done, complete tasks, and so much more. When we offer …
Checking In
Ask each other, ‘How are you really doing? What’s on your mind?’ Listen with empathy, without rushing to solve or judge.” When do you do this as a couple?
Mastermind Course
Spend 10 hours with me and change the way you relate internally FOREVER! ‘Build Secure Attachment Mastermind’ If you want more connection in your intimate relationships and to break out of the repeating cycles of distress, this is for you! …
Steps Forward in the Anxious/Avoidant Dynamic
We are always learning each other in relationship. We learn about our partner’s history, preferences, triggers and attachment style. And, of course, we are constantly learning about ourselves. Remember that all of the attachment styles exist on a spectrum. That …
A Beautiful Quote From Gabor Maté
When safety is threatened, and we are connected with others, we are more able to deal with the threat. From an IFS perspective, when we are connected to Self (similar to the soul or Higher Self), our other parts will …