The risk is the reenactment of the original wounds that created your attachment style in the first place. The opportunity here is for deep healing for both of you. Wherever you are on the spectrum, if you are serious about …
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5 Ways to Increase Intimacy with Your Avoidantly Attached Partner
The key with the avoidantly attached is to remember that when they pull back, they are often just as upset as you. It is their coping mechanism that pulls them into solitude to self-soothe. This is how they did it …
I’m Trying To Make Them Understand
Have you ever found yourself repeating yourself and trying to say the same thing in a hundred different ways to be understood? I know I have.
5 Tips for the 5 Stages of a Relationship
One common myth about great relationships is that there are no arguments or disagreements. The Gottman’s, fantastic relationship experts who have done lots of research in this area, disagree. It is NORMAL to have conflict in a relationship; the issue …
Anxious Attachment Explained
Do you find yourself feeling anxious in relationships and wonder if you might have an anxious attachment style? If you have, then this is the podcast for you. In this episode, you will learn everything you need to know about …
How Do I Comfort My Inner Child When She Still Wants That Love From My Parents?
Now you are an adult, you can take care of and love your inner child. Think of all the things your child wants from your parents and give those things to her yourself. It is usually things like being accepted, …
When People Rage, They Are Suffering
What does it mean to suffer? There are many ways we can suffer. We can suffer physically with pain, mentally with mental illness or rumination, or spiritually with a lack of meaning or moral dilemma. Suffering is part of the …
When We Feel Fear in a Relationship, We Have Two Ways to Deal With It.
When you bring curiosity into your conversation, everything changes. It can snap you out of old patterns and into something completely new. If you need help with this, seeing a therapist can be a fantastic start.
Being Understood and Accepted
Which one has more power for you? To be understood or accepted? To be understood is to have someone say, “You make sense” in one way or another.To be accepted is to belong. Both are food for the heart and …
Attachment Needs
I have a FREE resource to help you get awareness of your negative cycle. This cycle is frustrating and usually makes you both feel more disconnected than ever. Learning what your negative cycle is so you can identify it in …