We need boundaries so we can be clear about what is acceptable and what is not acceptable in our relationships. When we have healthy boundaries, they should provide a framework for relationships that are mutually loving, respectful and appropriate. Healthy …
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What Having A Healthy Boundary With Your Self
If boundaries with ourselves are too flexible, we tend to struggle with boundaries with others. What does a boundary with yourself sound like? “I agree not to check my work emails after 6pm” “I will not eat the whole container …
Healthy Personal Boundaries Sound Like
Boundaries with yourself refers to the idea of drawing a line between what is okay for you and what is not okay. Sometimes we don’t know where the boundary needs to be until we cross it and we feel angry …
Why Is It Important For Highly Sensitive People To Learn To Say “No”
Research has shown that highly sensitive people (HSPs) have a heightened sensitivity to how others are feeling, AND a tendency to feel the way the other person is feeling. So, if someone they love is sad, they have a tendency …
How to Break the Self-Betrayal Pattern
Little self-betrayals become a habit. It is in the little moments where our natural reaction is to say yes, when really, the right answer for us at that time is no. Self-betrayals happen when we don’t take the time and …
What is Self Betrayal?
When we grow up with parents who are abusive or neglectful, we quickly learn to ignore our own needs. Maybe it is dangerous to express our needs, or when we do, they are ignored. The result is a deep disconnect …
Emotionally Immature Parents
When we have been raised by emotionally immature parents the tendency is to be either emotionally immature ourselves as adults, or to become parentified children and later over responsible adults. Let’s start with the emotionally immature parents. Your parents were …
How to Stop Gaslighting
One of the main things to be aware of with people who use gaslighting is BOUNDARIES. When you know it is black and they say it is white, and you know there is no point wasting your energy arguing that …
How to start building self-trust
Self-trust has helped me a lot when building resilience. Like being in a relationship with anyone, building trust with yourself, especially if you have a history of abandoning yourself, takes time. You have to prove to yourself, and the inner …