How do you start to heal the mother and father wound? One of the pieces of the puzzle for me was doing transactional analysis work. More commonly known as inner child work. I have been doing this work with myself …
Tag: attachment theory
Fathers and Sons
After reading the last two posts, many people have asked, “What about the men?” How do men respond to the father wound? Of course, everyone’s response to any disconnection is different, so the core thing to remember is that there …
Regression into Childhood States
Our core childhood needs are: Attachment Freedom to be yourself and to have your emotions and needs validated Appropriate limits so you learn self-control Independence, competence and self-identity Play When triggered by one of these needs not being met, you …
How Trauma is Transmitted Intergenerationally
Intergeneratioanl trauma is real. Check out this paper “Intergenerational transmission of trauma effects: putative role of epigenetic mechanisms” by Yehuda & Lehrner (2018) for some fantastic research-based insights. Imagine a child growing up in a household with an alcoholic mother. …
What is a Cycle Breaker?
Attachment issues often pass through family lines by the way we are parented and then parent. You become a cycle breaker when you first see the intergenerational patterns and decide to consciously parent in a different way. Some …
When Your Mother Uses You For Emotional Support
As adults, we might find emotionally needy people repulsive and then criticise ourselves for feeling that repulsion. This can show up as we parents appropriately needy children. There might be part of us that wants to run away from their …
Mother’s Day 2022
Two years ago on the eve of Mother’s Day I was called to write a workbook about the mother wound. It was something that is still a great resource, the SIX STEPS TO HEALING THE MOTHER WOUND, at the moment …
What If It Was Never Your Fault
Let me know your thoughts in the comments. Take care of yourselves wherever you are. Love, Jen
Early Relationship
It is common to have many questions and no answers during this phase. Do they like me? How much do I like them? Are we compatible? Will I like their friends and family? What would my friends and family think …