Have you ever been in distress and the person you share your distress with also becomes distressed and you end up wishing you had not said anything? I think there is an art to being with suffering. I think it …
The Benefits of Mindfullness Meditation
Coming to a place of mindfulness is really about bringing our awareness into the present. So often we are physically present, but mentally somewhere completely different. When we are connected to our body, thorough mindful breath or mindful walking, we …
The First Meditation Experience
Mindfulness has been a big part of my personal healing journey. I first learned to meditate when I was about 22 – that is 20 years ago when the research and hype about meditation had not yet landed. I …
The Positive Seeds
Thich Nhat Hanh – No Mud, no Lotus. Most spiritual teachers, if you listen long enough, will start to talk about the mind as having ‘seeds’. All the ‘seeds’ in the mind have a different vibration to them. There might …
Letting Go
Thich Nhat Hanh – No Mud, no Lotus. Letting go is Thich Nhat Hanh’s first principle for transforming suffering. Letting go of attachments. He tells a story of a wealthy person who lived in a mansion and was afraid behind …
Why Do I Feel Anxiety?
Feelings want to be understood and be in connection, when we stuff them down, that’s when problems arise, and we get surprised. We can get really creative about HOW we stuff them down. I might be overeating, overworking, or causing …
What To Say To Someone With Anxiety
It is easy to think that when speaking to someone with anxiety, the best thing to do is to empathise. That might sound like, ‘I know how you are feeling, I get anxious before interviews.’ For someone with an anxiety …
How Is An ‘Anxiety Disorder’ Different To ‘Normal Anxiety’?
Anxiety is a normal feeling when there is something to be anxious about, like a job interview or a deadline at work. It can help you focus and get the job done. Once the interview or deadline is over, the …
The Art Of Re-Parenting Part 10 – Creativity & Your Inner Child
Creativity and the inner child are inextricably linked. Children HAVE to be creative to learn about the world. They have to be creative in their problem solving, learning to get a spoon in their mouth, learning how to get mum’s …
The Art Of Re-Parenting Part 9 – Self-Reparenting
When we have been raised in an unhealthy environment, when we have experienced neglect, abuse, invalidation, narcissism, conflict or violence, as adults there is still part of us that is expecting the same behaviour from those we love. We learn …