There are two main parts to building secure attachment. The first step is to build what I call internal secure attachment. When you have an internal secure attachment, you know at your very core that you will be there for …
Category: Relationships
When We Feel Fear in a Relationship, We Have Two Ways to Deal With It.
When you bring curiosity into your conversation, everything changes. It can snap you out of old patterns and into something completely new. If you need help with this, seeing a therapist can be a fantastic start.
Osho Quote: The First Lesson In Love is to Learn How to be Alone
Being comfortable being alone is a deep form of self-love. How can you love yourself if you never spend time with yourself? If you jump from one relationship to another, how can you have the space in yourself to know …
Are We Well-Suited?
If you read through this list and know that energy is lacking in one of these areas in your relationship, how could that area be energised somehow? How could you meet in that area differently? What experiments could you do …
What is “New Relationship Anxiety”?
Anxiety is usually protective. It is trying to stop us from being hurt. Feeling some anxiety at the beginning of a new relationship is quite common. When we enter a new relationship, we start to dance with vulnerability. Vulnerability requires …
The Avoidant Partner
When in conflict, it’s common for people with an avoidant adaptation to want to get away, to shut down and feel confused. This is often super frustrating for the other person who doesn’t understand what’s happening. Inside, the avoidant partner …
Blaming Partner Patterns
When you have an anxious adaptation in relationships, conflict signals danger to the nervous system. When this happens, your nervous system fills with energy and prepares you for fight or flight. This is super helpful if a tiger is chasing …
Blaming Partner
When in conflict, if you have an anxious adaptation, it is common to get into a pattern of feeling alone and hopeless in your relationship. Rather than give up, you might find yourself becoming critical of your partner and pursuing …
Avoidant Experiences
What is Avoidant Attachment? Avoidant attachment refers to a tendency to avoid emotional closeness and dependency on others. Those with this attachment style may have developed self-reliance as a defence mechanism, often suppressing their need for connection. This can make …
Feeling Loved and Important
Feeling loved and Important to your partner is an attachment need. BUT HOW??? Here are some ways to make your partner feel loved and important: