‘Many of you may feel stuck in a painful cycle—repeatedly choosing avoidant or emotionally distant partners despite craving closeness. You might wonder why you always feel unseen, unheard, or unimportant in relationships. When you feel this way, it is common …
Category: Relationships
The Strengths of Your Ancestors
When we look back at our ancestors, we can often find surprising, hidden strengths and things that connect us to our sense of belonging in the world. Ever since I was little, I have been desperate to see the …
Why You Apologize Even When It’s Not Your Fault
Check out Episode 39 of the Psychotherapy Central Podcast: Understanding and Healing Protest Behaviors Through an IFS Lens. Listen here: Enjoy, and let me know what you think in the comments. Love, Jen
Overly Sensitive And Anxiously Attached
If you grew up in an emotionally unstable environment, you likely became hyper-aware of small shifts—watching for any sign that might trigger a reaction. You learned to do things perfectly to avoid being yelled at or punished, picking up on …
Why You Feel So Anxious After a Fight
This is where therapy can be life-changing.Check out Episode 39 of the Psychotherapy Central Podcast: Understanding and Healing Protest Behaviors Through an IFS Lens.Listen here: Enjoy, and let me know what you think in the comments.Love, Jen
Protest Behaviours and IFS
When you learn to work with your parts instead of against them, you stop reacting out of fear and start responding from your calm, confident Self. Healing takes time, but every moment of self-awareness moves you forward. To hear more …
Being in the Discomfort of a Conflict is Incredibly Difficult for the Anxiously Attached.
When a conflict occurs, most people with an anxious attachment style try to repair the conflict as quickly as possible to regain closeness. The problem is that it can be difficult to maintain boundaries when you let things slide to …
Don’t Wait 6 Years to Save Your Relationship
As a couple therapist, I see many couples waiting too long to get help. On average, most struggling couples wait about 6 years before seeking couple therapy. This allows patterns of conflict, resentment, or emotional disconnection to become deeply ingrained.