Running from the pain won’t stop the pattern from repeating itself. Your subconscious is trying desperately to heal; it presents you with situation after situation until you pause and get curious. Not in a self-punishing way but in a compassionate, …
Category: Relationships
Give Up Being Right
Research in relationships shows that men find it more difficult than women to accept influence from their partners (see J. Gottman’s research). But, let’s face it, we can all love to win, and we are living in a culture that …
Having To Be Right
Have you ever been in a relationship with someone who has to be right all the time? It can be so frustrating. Even when there is evidence that they are wrong, they won’t openly say, “oh, I was wrong”, they …
How to Reconnect After An Argument
We all know those uncomfortable few minutes after a heated discussion. The argument's energy is hanging in the air, and you are both processing what was said. If your trauma response has been activated, you might be calming your nervous …
Episode 35: Unlocking Relationship Patterns
the pursuer-withdrawer pattern in relationships, a dynamic that can significantly impact relationship satisfaction and longevity. Dr. Ferguson shares her journey into psychology and hypnotherapy, offering deep insights into how these modalities can aid in self-discovery and healing.
Amanda Ferguson
Another great conversation with Dr Amanda Ferguson, someone who has traveled a similar path of healing to me. Listen to this episode to learn: Here’s the link to the podcast: Love Jen X
The Ties That Bind Us
“The Ties That Bind” delves into the heart of anxious attachment in dating, unraveling the complex emotions and behaviors that tether us in a dance of closeness and anxiety. Join us as we explore the labyrinth of need and nurture …
Marry Someone Who…
This is for my future self, who will have a beautiful garden to tend. I dream of an English garden, but they are difficult to maintain and water in Australia.
Trauma Treatment Collective Podcast
This was a wonderful conversation with Nina, another incredible therapist with a focus on trauma and healing. If you have some time, check out our conversation: Love Jen x
Book Review From A Therapist
I continue to read books to recommend to my clients as a helpful, solid book on how their childhood attachment dynamics impact their relationships as an adult and this one is a solid one. This book focuses on reparenting your …