When our partners are not responsive, it can feel like we are playing tennis with no one hitting the ball back. It quickly gets lonely. If this is happening in your relationship, now is the time to get curious about …
Category: Healing
Anxiously Attached People Appreciate Responsiveness
Responsiveness is a subtle form of communication and is a love language. When you respond to me reaching out for connection, the connection is validated, and I feel SAFE. It might be the smile you give me, in response to …
Anxious Attachment Traits
A snippet from my live session ‘Attachment Explained’ last week. Whenever we are discussing adaptations, I feel a warmth in my heart, that for me is linked to compassion. We develop adaptations in reaction to an environment. We have to …
The Power of Gratitude for the Anxiously Attached – 3 tips
The trick for the anxiously attached person is to let the gratitude in. And that’s a journey. When our life has shown us that we are not valued, noticed, and treasured, it can be difficult to let genuine gratitude and …
Anxiously Attached People Appreciate Reassurance
Feel free to share this with your partner! You are allowed to ask for reassurance – reassurance = safety. The most important thing about reassurance is that it is congruent and truthful. If you feel unsure about the relationship, it …
We Self-Abandon When We:
Learning to stop self-abandoning happens in the small, silent moments that often nobody else knows about. Learning to listen to ourselves differently. I have found inner child, parts and somatic work to be the most powerful to navigate this pattern …
Abandonment To Self-Abandonment
We might call this people-pleasing, but for me, this is deeper. This happens in the small but powerful moments when we: Concede in an argument because we feel them pulling away. Have sex, but our body doesn’t feel like it, …
Seeking Others to Regulate Us.
The opportunity here is to give the younger self the soothing she so desperately wanted and deserved. I have been doing Inner Child and ‘parts’ work for over 17 years with myself and others and found it to be one …
Abandonment Fear Part 2
In this live session, I cover:????Exactly what abandonment fear is????Where it comes from????How it related to Anxious Attachment????How to approach this fear in ourselves????How it pushes us to attach too quickly????Why we attract unavailable partners????What to look for in relationships????What …