This is why we end up repeating cycles in our relationships. We unconsciously repeat aspects of our childhood that remain unprocessed in our current relationship—usually the most intimate relationship, whether that is a friendship or partnership. I love to look …
Category: Healing
Notice What’s Already Okay
Sometimes I notice that I’m over-focused on what isn’t working or what I think is wrong. It seems that all of the okay things vanish from my awareness in those moments. When I bring them back, even one small thing, …
The Couple Bubble as the Secure Home Base
As adults, we need safe and secure places where we can come to be refueled and replenished. We venture out into the world, meet challenges, and experience things that rock us. Our partner is there for us at these times. …
5 Steps to Reality-Check your Relationship
Sometimes we need to reality-check our relationship. It is okay to want a relationship. Humans are social creatures, we are hard-wired for connection. But sometimes we can want it so badly that we ignore the red flags and we make …
Working with Limerence
When we work with our inner child, we are working with our patterns around limerence. Know that you have got this! If you want to know more about Inner Child or ‘parts work’, check out the ‘Heal Your Inner Child’ …
Limerence a State of Love Sickness
Limerence was first identified by the psychologist Dorothy Tennov in the 1970s in her book, Love and Limerence: The Experience of Being In Love. When we fall into infatuation, we don’t see clearly, and we risk ignoring obvious red flags. …
Deep Attunement For Trauma
As a therapist, it is my job to be deeply attuned to my client, notice when someone is becoming distressed, and assist them in returning to their window of tolerance.I like to think of it as good mothering because it …
I’m Anxious and My Partner is Avoidant. Will it Ever Work?
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