Did you grow up carrying a secret that wasn’t yours? When a child is asked to hold an adult’s secret — like an affair or a family betrayal — it can fracture their sense of safety, belonging, and play. In …
Category: Family
Are You a Cycle Breaker?
You feel it ends with you. Have you ever looked at your family… and felt the quiet knowing: “It ends with me.” You feel things deeply. You ask the hard questions. You see the patterns others couldn’t see — and …
Easter Holidays
The sun is still out. We took a week off last week to take the kids up the coast, 5 hours north of Sydney. We stopped to visit family on the way up and had some boating fun on Easter …
Tools for Grounding
Having a go-to grounding list can be incredibly helpful when we’re feeling overwhelmed—especially if we have a trauma history. When we’re triggered, our sympathetic nervous system kicks in—hello, fight-or-flight. In those moments, we need simple, accessible ways to soothe ourselves …
Family Dysfunction
New eyes see old patterns.When someone new joins a family—like a daughter- or son-in-law—they often spot the dysfunction that others have learned to ignore, minimise, or normalise. It doesn’t mean they’re causing it. It means they’re not afraid to name …