When we give love to ourselves abundantly, it is easier to give love in all its forms to others.
So, why do we struggle to show love to ourselves? Some of us were taught that it is ‘good’ to put ourselves at the bottom of the pile.
Some of us learnt:
To make sure everyone else in the family is happy and content, and only then can we give ourselves any time or kindness.
That it is a weakness to need anything at all, so not only do we not expect it from anyone else, but we starve ourselves of any internal love.
That our needs are not valid, because at the time we were surrounded by people who couldn’t meet them. So, we learnt to deny our needs, even to ourselves.
IT IS TIME FOR THIS TO STOP. Everyone has a need for love. Without it we become disconnected, cold, and harsh, to ourselves and to other people. When we give love to ourselves freely, we glow with a warmth that is perceptible to others, and we are more generous in the love we give to others.
By making the time and effort to fill our own cup, it is then easier to fill other’s cups.
I feel love through physical touch and words of affirmation, I’m on a long drive in the car today as a passenger, so I’m going to give myself some extra words of affirmation along the way.
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QUESTION
What will you do today, in your love language, to fill your cup? A gift from you, to you? I’d love to hear in the comments section.
