As a couple therapist, I see people repeatedly move through all of these stages. If you do this well, you build an increasingly solid foundation for your relationship.
Sometimes, however, we get stuck in the struggle and repair phase, especially when repair was not modelled for us as children.
The kind of repair required will vary depending on the wound. Unaddressed wounds tend to fester in relationships and be repeatedly referred to in arguments. If you have a wound like this, I highly recommend that you see a couple therapist and take the time to heal it fully. It will create a more stable foundation for your future together.
Where are you in the cycle?
Jen
