The ability to perceive emotions is something we learn in childhood. When my son was about 9, he went through a phase of about two months where he would regularly ask me if I was feeling angry. He would say: …
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Emotional Intelligence is a Predicator of Success.
Children can learn emotional intelligence and so can couples. What is emotional intelligence (emotional quotient or EQ)? EQ is the ability to understand and process your emotions in a positive way to release stress, empathise with others, communicate effectively and …
How to Understand Someone Else’s Point of View
When we take on the perspective of someone else, a whole network of brain regions become activated. The dorsomedial and dorsolateral prefrontal cortices, the temporoparietal junction and precuneus. These areas are responsible for memory, attention, social cognition, integration and mental …
Open Minded People
Being open-minded is generally thought of as a necessary quality to think critically. It helps us to see all the factors that might be affecting a situation. It is one of the factors that protects against dogmatism. Being open minded …
Shame Is The Fear Of Disconnection
Shame is a painful emotion that is created because of a sense of failure to meet a certain standard. It sounds like: “I’m a failure, I’m a terrible person, I’m useless”. They are absolute statements about the self that make …
The Benefits Of Being Assertive
Assertiveness is when we have a strong self-esteem and maintain healthy boundaries. Assertive communication is direct, clear and makes space for the other person. When we are assertive, we tend to experience less anxiety and depression because we are able …
It’s Okay to Take a Break from Your Family
If you have grown up with a family system that is terrified of separation, that places family above all else, the thought of taking a break can be both terrifying and wonderful. It can be terrifying when you just think …
Why Aligning with Your Values Makes Your Boundaries Clearer
One of the best ways to be clear about your boundaries is to align them with your values. What are values? Values are principles that you feel deeply aligned with. Some examples of values are: authenticity, adventure, community, fun, knowledge, …
How to Identify Your Boundaries
Get into the habit of checking in with yourself regularly When we have grown up in a chaotic environment, we have learned to close down in different ways to stay safe. If there were few healthy boundaries growing up, it …
What Having A Healthy Boundary With Your Self
If boundaries with ourselves are too flexible, we tend to struggle with boundaries with others. What does a boundary with yourself sound like? “I agree not to check my work emails after 6pm” “I will not eat the whole container …