When we have childhood attachment wounding we will unconsciously recreate that attachment pattern in our adult relationships. This means we are recreating our childhood trauma in our adult life and that’s why it’s so painful. You might find yourself feeling …
Tag: Trauma
One Way To Work With Your Critical Inner Voice
Did you grow up with critical parents? What were the comments that you heard? Did you get: You look fat in that Nobody cares if you are here or not You always make mistakes You are so clumsy You …
When You ‘Act Out’, It Might Be Your Inner Child Trying To Protect You
If it wasn’t safe to connect with your parents when you were a child, it makes sense that connecting with people as an adult will be scary to your inner child. One part of you might feel safe, but …
What Is Inner Child Work?
Inner Child work is part of many research-based psychotherapeutic models, including Transactional Analysis, internal family systems, EMDR, Gestalt Therapy, schema therapy, and narrative therapy. The reason why it is part of so many therapies is that it WORKS. We all …
The Difference Between A One-Off Trauma and Complex Trauma.
There is a huge difference between a one-off, shock trauma and complex trauma. In this panel interview, I explain the differences using a personal experience with shock trauma. This panel interview was one of a three-part series exploring trauma for …
Trauma to Transform or Transfer?
n the full version, we had the opportunity to discuss trauma, how it sits in the body, how it can be transformed, and how it is transferred intergenerationally. We also cover attachment theory, different types of trauma, and trauma responses. …
We Can’t Expect Our Siblings to Validate Our Reality.
If this is something you have had to work with, talking to a therapist or other supportive people outside of your family can be incredibly affirming. Let me know if this is something you have experienced and how you have …
Some Valid Needs
Knowing our needs can be difficult when we have been taught that our needs are not important or should be placed after everyone else’s needs. This is a type of trauma. We are being separated from our most basic instinct, …
The Dance Of The Disorganised And The Securely Attached
So, it starts great. It is AMAZING for the disorganised person to finally be in a relationship with someone who appreciates and respects you. Your new partner is attentive, calls and texts regularly and doesn’t leave you guessing. They do …
Why Therapists Go To Therapy
I went to see my therapist yesterday to do some work around the birth of my two children. They are now 10 and 12 years old, but I still feel a queasiness in my stomach when I think about my …