________ You deserve the same care you would give others. Try it next time you’re stuck. Love, Jen
Tag: therapy
You Are The Gift
A little gift to share on Christmas Day. As Christmas day can come with many expectations and disappointments, you might like to take time to take care of your younger parts before, during and after the festivities. I hope your …
Family Secrets
Family secrets and discussing each other in secret can weigh heavily on individuals and a family.Many people will find some support helpful in gaining perspective and navigating these intense families. If this is you, reach out to a good therapist.Our …
About Co-regulation from a Ten Year Old
Oh, my heart! I just can’t stop watching. She’s 14 now, and I can’t believe how smart, funny and beautiful she was and still is. I’m one lucky mum!
EMDR and Trauma
Have you had a big traumatic thing happen, and you seem to move through it well, and then something small happens, and it seems to get stuck? A few things could be going on: Has anyone else had this experience? …
What’s Not Co-Regulation
Understanding what co-regulation IS and ISN’T can transform your relationships! It’s not about mirroring someone’s panic or distress—it’s about maintaining calm and helping others find their way back to a place of peace. In Chapter 6 of my book ‘Heal …
Turning Criticism into a Complaint
If you grew up with a lot of criticism around you, you likely have a loud, critical voice in your head as an adult. Usually, that critical voice is directed inward, but in intimate relations Criticism usually grows out of …
Tips to Become Less Defensive
The four communication styles that have a negative impact on your relationships according to the Gottmans: Everyone will have a favoured method. Mine is defensiveness. Defensiveness is a response to criticism and tends to increase conflict because the other person …