If your partner shuts down or distances themselves when stressed, it doesn’t mean they don’t care. People with avoidant attachment styles often move away as a protective strategy—not to hurt you, but to keep themselves safe. Avoidant behaviour isn’t about …
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We Choose Avoidant Partners: An Internal Family Systems Perspective
‘Many of you may feel stuck in a painful cycle—repeatedly choosing avoidant or emotionally distant partners despite craving closeness. You might wonder why you always feel unseen, unheard, or unimportant in relationships. When you feel this way, it is common …
Why You Apologize Even When It’s Not Your Fault
Check out Episode 39 of the Psychotherapy Central Podcast: Understanding and Healing Protest Behaviors Through an IFS Lens. Listen here: Enjoy, and let me know what you think in the comments. Love, Jen
Protest Behaviours and IFS
When you learn to work with your parts instead of against them, you stop reacting out of fear and start responding from your calm, confident Self. Healing takes time, but every moment of self-awareness moves you forward. To hear more …
What is Insecure Attachment?
Healing insecure attachment is a journey, but it’s possible with support. So much love on your healing journey, Jen
Understanding Childhood Trauma
Childhood trauma isn’t just about “big events.” It can be subtle, like being emotionally ignored or having to grow up too quickly. Trauma isn’t the event itself—it’s how your body and mind process it and the support you have around …
10 Things to be Proud of Yourself for
A little reminder for today. Notice just one thing you are proud of about yourself. Give yourself a metaphorical pat on the back. Hold on to it all day. You got this. Love, Jen