If you value your relationship with your mother and she wants you to call daily, but you find it exhausting, what do you do? I like to look under the request to explore what is REALLY there. What is it …
Tag: therapy
Signs of Emotional Exhaustion
We have all been there. When we feel like there is no more to give, to ourselves or anyone else. We are burnt out, and emotionally exhausted. When this happens to me, I know it is a big shout-out for …
Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs
Some questions to ponder: Where am I deeply passionate about something in my life? What might self-actualisation in this area look like for me? What can I do daily to live more of that future self in my life? If …
How long is too long in a relationship?
Sometimes we stay in unhealthy relationships for too long. For many reasons: I have invested so much time and energy into this, it can’t fail. Will I ever meet anyone better? Holding on to the idea that they will change. …
Consequences of Comparison
Let’s first differentiate between being inspired by someone and comparing yourself to someone. When we feel inspired by someone, we feel uplifted, and hopeful, as though anything is possible. When we are comparing ourselves to someone, there is a one …
Yearning for Deep Connection
Relational patterns can be difficult to shift. I find it is in the small moments of change that big shifts occur. If you would like to work on your relational patterns, you might enjoy my course, ‘Relationship Cycle Breaker’. …
Dark Night of the Soul
My Dark Night of the Soul happened in my mid 20’s, when I was forced to re-evaluate the core of my beliefs about the world, about society and who I was. I was also going through a values-based inner conflict …
Awareness of repeating patterns
What is Your ‘Core Wound’? A core wound is caused by a painful experience, which shaped how you feel about yourself or the world. It then drives what you believe and how you behave. It impacts your life often without …
Conflict in Relationships
Can you talk things through without one of you storming out? Can you communicate without shouting? Do you feel safe in the conflict? If not, do you feel unsafe physically? Why? Are you being threatened? Do they go to hit …
Feeling Unheard
I thought point 1 in yesterday’s post, ‘unrealistic relationship expectations: my partner should be able to read my mind’, was worth unpacking. It is often the case that we think we are making our needs clear when our partner has …