There can be trauma through what was DONE to you, being hit, shouted at, called names when growing up. And then there is trauma through omission, things that you should have experienced that you didn’t. It’s easy to look back and think that nothing damaging happened, because you weren’t abused, But it can also be deeply traumatic to experience:
A parent who expects you to be the adult (it’s too much too soon for your nervous system).
Not being noticed or loved (this impacts the sense of self and self-worth).
Having cries for help ignored (this can create an avoidant attachment style).
When you think about trauma through what was missing, is there anything else you would add to this list? Let me know in the comments.