*Trigger warning for this one* It was difficult for me to speak about my birth trauma for a long time for a few reasons. Firstly, it felt ungrateful to acknowledge it. I had a baby. Who was I to complain …
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A Tool For Repair
The added bonus with this is that your kids learn by example. When they see you have a re-do, they learn that they can and will make mistakes, and it really is okay because there is a way to repair …
Secure Attachment Grows in Small Moments
Every little look, every quiet word, every shared smile between you and your partner is a thread in the tapestry of your connection. It’s the daily, gentle moments that build a secure attachment, not just the grand declarations. In the …
You Don’t Have to be Fully Healed to Have a Fulfilling Relationship
Healing isn’t a prerequisite for love; it’s a journey you embark on together. You don’t have to be fully healed to find or nurture a fulfilling relationship. What matters is the commitment to grow, to learn, and to evolve as …
Seeing the Safer Parent Clearly
This is not about blaming the safer parent. This is about acknowledging a phase in the healing process where suddenly the rose-coloured glasses come off, and you see the safer parent for the human that they are. We need rose-coloured …
Managing a Parent’s Moods
Children should be free to be just that—children. They shouldn’t carry the weight of their parent’s emotions, learning to set aside their own feelings to maintain peace. This cycle teaches them to constantly read the room, striving to be the …
Open Minded PodCast
I had such a wonderful chat with Marla. We covered all things attachment and touched on trauma, EMDR, IFS, meditation and healing. Head over to her podcast and check it out. If you like what you hear, please leave a …
Book Review for Heal Your Anxious Attachment
Sitting back and reading the book reviews from clinicians, educators, and the general public is fantastic. It makes the year of study and focus worth it. I wrote Heal Your Anxious Attachment because my clients and community asked for a …
Book Review: Heal Your Anxious Attachment
So wonderful to read reviews like this coming in. It makes the year I spent writing it so worth it!
Be Authentic
If they’ve only ever known the version of you that walks on eggshells, careful and curated, then they’ve only seen a the watered-down version of you. It takes energy to be this smaller version, to keep the mask in place. …