When we need to apologise, practising alone and saying the words out loud can be SUPER helpful. We can get clear about what we are apologising for, what happened for us and how we plan to resolve it. This can …
Tag: psychotherapy
I knew I was growing when I was okay with not being okay
We all have a different sense of self. We might see ourselves as strong, wise or stable. It can be a shock when suddenly you are not feeling your ‘normal’ self and start to know that you are NOT okay. …
Cycle Breakers Are Often The Black Sheep of The Family
Cycle breakers are often the black sheep of the family because they choose to focus on breaking toxic patterns internally and externally. It can be lonely, know that you are not alone and it IS worth it. You are busy …
When You Are Overly Sensitive To Your Partner’s Moods
If you grew up in an emotionally unstable environment, you would have learned to watch for any little thing that might set them off. You learn to do things perfectly to avoid being shouted at or punished. You learn to …
Childhood Trauma
This is why we end up repeating cycles in our relationships. We unconsciously repeat aspects of our childhood that remain unprocessed in our current relationship—usually the most intimate relationship, whether that is a friendship or partnership. I love to look …
The Most Beautiful Words on Earth
I think sometimes we can hear the words ‘I love you’ so often that they start to lose their true meaning. I do wonder about languages that have more nuanced words for ‘love’ if this would increase the meaningfulness in …
Real Validation
It is so easy to think we have heard our partner, when in fact we have been busy defending our position. We are often afraid that if we see things from their perspective, in a FELT way, we will not …
Healing Is Not A Destination.
Most of us start the healing journey because we just want to feel better. That pesky stuff from our childhood that we put in the past to forge a new version of ourselves rears its head. We might push it …
The Oak Tree
Being an oak in a forest of firs is not easy. You know from an early age that you are different. It is not better or worse, being an oak. It just is. Learning to accept this body as it …
Cycle Breaker
When you are a cycle breaker, you can’t help but see the healing that needs to happen in your family. You clearly see the repeating patterns of pain and know that you can’t live that way. You know that the …