60% of you said that your love language was what you DIDN’T receive from your parents as a child (from 120 people on Instagram). I form part of the 40% who said it IS what they received as a child. …
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Love Language Barriers
Do you crave them but then they make you feel uncomfortable? How were they given to you as a child? Do you crave time with your partner, but when you get it find you don’t enjoy the time you spend …
Attunement in Relationships
When we are in long-distance relationships, the need to attune to one another is even greater. Dr Gottman has a fabulous acronym to remember in all relationships. Often, we have awareness, the first step, but we can struggle with the …
Love Language Tips for Long-Distance Relationships
Many of you have asked about long-distance relationships. It is not unusual for couples to have been separated by distance while actively trying to show love. When we are distant, there is an opportunity to be more intentional with our …
Your Child’s Love Language in Action
Children need all five love languages. As a parent, you will probably find it easiest to give the ones you like to receive. This can leave the others a little lacking. Of course, I do things for them and spend …
Discovering Your Self-Love Language
When we give love to ourselves abundantly, it is easier to give love in all its forms to others. So, why do we struggle to show love to ourselves? Some of us were taught that it is ‘good’ to put …
Accepting Words of Affirmation
When we have grown up receiving few affirmations from the people around us, it can be difficult to receive words of affirmation as an adult. You might find yourself feeling suspicious and wondering if you are being manipulated. This could …
Gifting Words of Affirmation
Words of affirmation can be incredibly powerful for people who received a lot of criticism as children. For them to hear that they are appreciated and loved for who they are is deeply affirming and healing. It allows them to …
Discovering Your Partner’s Love Language
There is no better time to discover your partner’s love language. Take time to think about how you FEEL love from your partner. You might find that your partner can tell you a hundred time that they love you, but …
Consequences of Unmet Childhood Needs
Our core childhood needs are: Attachment Freedom to be yourself and to have your emotions and needs validated Appropriate limits so you learn self-control Independence, competence and self-identity Play When triggered by one of these needs not being met, you …