This is about knowing your partner’s world. It is difficult to really love someone that you don’t know. You might read this list and think, of course I know these things about my partner. That is great. But know that …
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The Secret to Relationship Success: A Strong Friendship
When there is a strong friendship, repairs in the relationship work better. In the Gottman’s book “The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work” (1999), they talk about the importance of repairs. In any relationship, we have to expect to have …
Ideas for Managing In-Laws
This is a personal one…for me, point 3, ‘manage your expectations’ was a huge learning with my in-laws. I grew up with basically six people in my family; my mum, dad, sister, nan, and grandad (my mother’s parents), and we …
How to Identify YOUR Primary Love Language
A few people have asked me how to discover their primary love language. A lot of people read through the list and think “I love ALL of those!”, why do I just need to choose one or two? In a …
Five Tips for a Long-Distance Relationship
As a couple in a long-distance relationship, it is vital to have something to look forward to. Planning your next meeting during a pandemic might be difficult but set a date anyway. Make it a reasonable date, that could be …
Are Your Love Languages What You DIDN’T Receive From One Parent?
60% of you said that your love language was what you DIDN’T receive from your parents as a child (from 120 people on Instagram). I form part of the 40% who said it IS what they received as a child. …
Blocks to Receiving the Five Love Languages
Uncovering your own unconscious blocks to receiving love. Once we know what our love languages are, it is interesting to think about the extent to which we allow love in. For example, we might crave words of affirmation, but when …
Complaints as a Guide to Your Partner’s Love Language
You might find that the thing your partner complains most about not receiving from you, is one of their main love languages. For example, your partner might complain about not feeling noticed, not being told that they are loved, not …
Love Language Ideas for Long Distance Couples
Many of you have asked about long-distance relationships, and given the global situation this year, many couples have been separated and actively trying to show love across huge distances. My heart goes out you. I really can’t imagine what it …
How to Give Your Partner the Gift of Words of Affirmation
Words of affirmation can be incredibly powerful for people who received a lot of criticism as children. For them to hear that they are appreciated and loved for who they are is deeply affirming and healing. It allows them to …