Little self-betrayals become a habit. It is in the little moments where our natural reaction is to say yes, when really, the right answer for us at that time is no. Self-betrayals happen when we don’t take the time and …
Tag: Healing
Self-Betrayal is a Form of Inner Disconnection
When your needs as a child have not been met, there has been abuse or neglect, a disconnect forms internally with the inner knowing of what you need in any given moment. This makes self-care very difficult as you have …
Protective Factors For Suicide
With suicide being the leading cause of death for Australians from ages 15 to 44, it is important we are all aware of the protective factors. If you read through this list and see that you are weak in some …
How To Have A Conversation With Someone You Are Worried About
Here is a great pocket guide for ‘how to have that conversation’. Above are the DO’s and here are the DO NOT’s: DON’T try to talk them out of suicide. DON’T try to fix their problem. Just listen with openness …
A Suicide Attempt Is Not ‘Attention Seeking Behaviour’
It can be confronting to sit and hold space for someone who is feeling suicidal. We have to manage our own feelings as well as hold space for their feelings. Before I had training in suicide prevention, I thought that …
Suicide Warning Signs
Warning signs are important. Know what to look for and reach out if in doubt. We often think that most suicides are caused by a one-off event, maybe a relationship break up, or the loss of a career or public …
When is Guilt Appropriate?
This gem came up in a therapy session many years ago. When my therapist said it to me, I asked her to repeat it so I could digest what she had just said. Yep…one of those moments. I was feeling …
What is a Trigger?
When we talk about a ‘trigger’ in psychology, we are talking about something in the moment that reminds us of something in the past, it might be something you see, smell or hear. Imagine if your father was a large …
Signs I was Healing
Someone asked me recently, ‘How do I know I am getting better, is there some kind of check list?’ We had a giggle about it, but it got me thinking about the signs of healing. When I began my personal …
How To Heal From Scapegoating
Healing from scapegoating can take time because the role of scapegoat has been imprinted on you for such a long time. The first step is to validate the effect the behaviour has had on you. This is best done with …