Sometimes when I share that I’m upset about something, you get upset about me being upset. It starts to feel really confusing and I end up soothing you instead of myself. This often happens when you feel that you are …
Tag: Feelings
What I Love About Working With Couples
I can’t describe the magic that happens in couple work when someone reveals something so tender and vulnerable and is met with heart-opening compassion and understanding. Even when the thing being shared doesn’t make sense or is illogical, both people …
Dissociation Through a ‘Parts’ Lens
There is hope. By gaining awareness and seeking support, you can embark on a journey towards healing and reclaiming your sense of self. You’re not alone on this path Love Jen
Do You Feel Too Much?
We all have a story surrounding our relationship with feelings. We might have learnt that feelings are dangerous if we grew up with dysregulated parents or that feelings are shameful if we grew up with parents who were disconnected from …
Been Ghosted? Here’s Some Help
Follow @psychotherapy.central for more tips on how to do your inner work and form healthier, lasting relationships. With this practice, we can swap the word ‘ghosted’ for ‘triggered’. It is natural to feel triggered when you have been ghosted. Most …
Reconnecting with your Feelings for the Avoidantly Attached
When you have the avoidant adaptation, you likely grew up in an environment where it was not okay to have needs or your needs were denied, so you shut them down. As an adult, you may judge yourself as weak …
Reconnecting with your Needs for the Avoidantly Attached
For the avoidant adaptation, reconnecting with your needs, body, and emotions is part of your healing journey. There are many ways to begin to reconnect to the body. Two of the most potent ways I use with my clients are …
Self-Validation
As a child, we look to our parents for validation about ourselves and the world around us. When we don’t receive that validation, it can be incredibly detrimental to our mental health as adults. It might sound like, “I heard …
Mixed Feelings
It is normal to have mixed feelings about people we are in a relationship with. When we are in black and white thinking, it might be challenging to accept that we have different feelings about the same person. When we …
Do I Feel Too Much?
We all have a story surrounding our relationship with feelings. We might have learnt that feelings are dangerous if we grew up with dysregulated parents or that feelings are shameful if we grew up with parents who were disconnected from …