Healing is not a destination. It is a journey. I’m so glad you are on this journey with me. Love to all, Jen
Tag: Cycle breaker
Cycle Breaker
When you are a cycle breaker, you can’t help but see the healing that needs to happen in your family. You clearly see the repeating patterns of pain and know that you can’t live that way. You know that the …
Breaking the Shame Cycle
Shame is often transmitted through family lines. Parents use shame-based parenting, the children grow up with shame and use shame-based parenting, and the pattern is repeated. Shame is something that comes up in therapy regularly. One of the most powerful …
When you are a Cycle Breaker…
The more Cycle Breakers I meet, the more I hear this story. This feeling of not really belonging to your family of origin, of feeling innately different, like you are a completely different species. For a while, this often causes …
Trauma to Transform or Transfer?
n the full version, we had the opportunity to discuss trauma, how it sits in the body, how it can be transformed, and how it is transferred intergenerationally. We also cover attachment theory, different types of trauma, and trauma responses. …
The Healing Journey
There is a cycle we all go through while we are healing. It is the cycle of discovery, healing and then growth. As we discover, it can be confronting. It can be confronting to watch yourself push your partner away …
Cyle Breakers Will Often Be Shamed In Their Family
There are many subtle ways the cycle breaker is shamed in the family; I hope the list above is helpful in spotting some of the behaviours. A big thank you to my Instagram community for adding to this list. …
Healing Old Communication Styles Where We Play Games, Push Our Partner Away And DON’T Get What We Want
Here are some situations, some old communication styles, that don’t work, and some new ways to communicate to help get your needs met. I hope you find them helpful! SITUATION – When you talk to them, they are not really …
Some Valid Needs
Knowing our needs can be difficult when we have been taught that our needs are not important or should be placed after everyone else’s needs. This is a type of trauma. We are being separated from our most basic instinct, …
Cycle Breakers Will Often Feel Out Of Place In Their Family
Cycle breakers will often feel out of place in their family. That’s tough because it leaves you feeling isolated. But you just can’t tow the family line anymore. You can’t listen to any more suggestions that there is something wrong …