Assertiveness is when we have strong self-esteem and maintain healthy boundaries. Assertive communication is direct and clear and makes space for the other person. When we are assertive, we tend to experience less anxiety and depression because we can stand …
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The Effects of Drawing Children into Adult Conflicts
One of the most common examples of this is during a divorce. Both parents are vying for the emotional support of the children. They are consciously manipulating the children to align with them. This might take the form of comments …
The Emotionally Attuned Parent
It is so easy to be dismissive when we are parenting. We are too busy and distracted to stop and listen to what is needed. When we don’t attend to children, they learn they are not important, their feelings and …
What to Say to Someone with Anxiety
When someone is experiencing anxiety it is easy to say something like, ‘I know how you are feeling. I get anxious before interviews.’ For someone with an anxiety disorder, the anxiety does not just disappear once the event is over. …
Negative Thinking
Sometimes it can feel like it is impossible to stop the negative thinking. I know. I have been there. When nothing, like nothing, works. It happens mostly when we are stressed or anxious about a particular topic and our mind …
Relationship Rituals To Help with Connection
Relationship rituals help with co-regulation. When you are in an intimate relationship with someone, your nervous systems will attune with one another. When connection is strong in the relationship, if one person is dysregulated, the other person’s nervous system will …
A Powerful Tool To Help Your Partner Connect
As with all suggestions, nothing works 100% of the time.When I feel triggered, I use this question with myself. I look at the facts and ask myself, “What does that mean to me?”Recently, I found myself feeling angry about the …
I’m Anxious, and My partner is Avoidantly Attached. Will it Ever Work?
The opportunity here is for deep healing for both of you. The risk is the reenactment of the original wounds that created your attachment style in the first place. Wherever you are on the spectrum, if you are serious about …
Intergenerational Attachment Styles
A short clip from last week’s Insta LIVE about Avoidant Attachment. How different styles like different amounts of relational distance and how this is transmitted intergenerationally.
7 Powerful Questions for the Avoidantly Attached
If you are avoidant and ready to challenge yourself – there are the questions to be asking. Remember that for avoidant people, you have learned NOT to reach out for support. Nobody has been there to hold you in the …