In EFT, the therapist acts as the secure attachment figure for both people in the relationship and role models compassionate listening until the couple feels safe enough to use each other as that secure home base. The therapist guides each …
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Getting out of Autopilot
We have a choice to live life on autopilot or to live life ‘awake’, but to be awake, we have to do things differently. Not everything all at once, but we need to learn to bring more awareness into our …
How Are Cycle Breakers Shamed in Their Family?
There are often comments which, when boiled down, ask, “Why can’t you just be more like us?” When cycle breakers emerge, the resistance is usually overt AND covert. Overt in the things said to you and covert in the things …
The Health Benefits of Secure Attachment – According To The Research
The health benefits of secure attachment. according to the research 1) lower levels of stress and anxiety, This stems from their stable and trusting relationships, which provide a reliable support network that acts as a buffer against psychological distress. 2) …
Signs Therapy Could Be Useful
It is time to end the stigma of mental health and get support when you need it. You deserve to be supported wherever you are at. As humans, we are social creatures. We were never meant to have it all …
When to Let Go of a Relationship
Have you ever experienced the confusion and struggle of not knowing whether you should stay or leave a relationship? You might have two parts. One who wants to stay and might see the good in your partner or be afraid …
Mastermind Course
Spend 10 hours with me and change the way you relate internally FOREVER! ‘Build Secure Attachment Mastermind’ If you want more connection in your intimate relationships and to break out of the repeating cycles of distress, this is for you! …
Is it possible to change my attachment style?
One of the things we look at in my course, ‘ Relationship Cycle Breaker,’ are practical ways to rewire our personality for more fulfilling relationships. You CAN go back and rewire that original attachment to create profound shifts and healing …
Caught in a Pain Loop
The healing is in learning how to meet the pain. It might have been impossible to meet the original pain when we were 5 or 14 or even 20, but now we can step closer. As we start to heal, …
What Respecting Boundaries Might Sound Like
In many intimate relationships, especially with friends and partners, we get used to them doing certain things and playing certain roles in our lives. It can be difficult at first when those people decide they need to stop doing those …