Attachment wounding

“Modern child-rearing leaves most people suffering from symptoms of insecure attachment: self-hatred, disembodiment, lack of grounding, chronic insecurity and anxiety, overactive minds, lack of basic trust, and a deep sense of inner deficiency”

Is Modern Child-Rearing Dysfunctional?

Jennifer April 20, 2021

What do you think about this? I’m curious to know. I came across this when I was studying for my Master’s Degree. I was drawn to it because I see these symptoms all the time in my clinic and have …

Is Your Attachment Style Affecting Your Relationships?

Jennifer April 3, 2021

Your attachment style influences all of your intimate relationships. Knowing if you are secure or insecure in your attachment can help you to understand some of your behaviour when you are in relationships. Know that your attachment style CAN be …

BLUE The Repeating Cycle of Attachment Wounding. 1. The child is raised by a mother with mental health issues. She is not attuned to the child and numbs her pain with drugs and alcohol 2. The child learns that she cannot rely on her mother for comfort; she learns to stay out of the way and starts to care for herself 3. She develops an 'avoidant' attachment style 4. As a mother, she finds intimacy difficult and pushes her child away 5. The child develops either an avoidant or anxious attachment style 6. And the cycle continues

What is a Cycle Breaker?

Jennifer March 29, 2021

We all have repeating patterns or ‘cycles’ in our family of origin. It might be repeating patterns of failed marriages, drug and alcohol problems, or family conflict. You become a cycle breaker when you first see the cycle and then …