Understanding what co-regulation IS and ISN’T can transform your relationships! It’s not about mirroring someone’s panic or distress—it’s about maintaining calm and helping others find their way back to a place of peace. In Chapter 6 of my book ‘Heal …
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Why Co-Regulation is Important
When a nervous system with little co-regulation starts to receive co-regulation as an adult, it will learn to regulate itself. This is where we reach the limits of individual personal development work. At this stage, we need to be in …
Rituals for Building Connection
When you are an early bird in a relationship with a night owl, you potentially miss out on many opportunities for connection. You might find less time to talk, less intimacy, less touch, and at worst, you live like friends …
But I had a Stable Home. Why Am I Avoidant In Relationships?
You might have grown up with a roof over your head and three meals a day with your two parents. You might look back at your childhood and think, “Okay, I was alone a lot, and my family weren’t very …
Attachment Exists On A Spectrum
ttachment exists on a spectrum, with ‘secure’ in the middle. You might emerge from childhood with more anxious traits in relationships. You might enter a relationship with someone securely attached and find that you are moving on the spectrum towards …
Hot and Cold Behaviours
Hot and cold behaviours will trigger anxiety regardless of your attachment style. If one day they are sending you flowers and the next they are not responding to a text, that’s hot and cold. If one day they invite you …
Is Noah (‘The Hot Rabbi’) Avoidant?
Here are some of my thoughts. I’d love to hear yours. Feel free to comment below. Love, Jen
