Have you found yourself in a relationship arguing about the same thing over and over with no resolution? If your answer is yes, you are not alone. Research has found that 69% of couples’ areas of disagreement are about UNRESOLVABLE …
Tag: Arguements
![My partner always wants to pause during difficult conversations, and it is difficult to move forward.](https://i0.wp.com/cdn1.jennynurick.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/05/1-14-scaled.jpg?fit=650%2C650&ssl=1)
My Partner Always Wants To Pause During Difficult Conversations, And It Is Difficult To Move Forward
The curiosity here is around reactivity, and when fight, flight or freeze might take over for either of you in the relationship. This is a conversation that needs to happen when you are NOT in the middle of an argument. …
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How to Take a Break During an Argument
Storming out during an argument is not a great way to take a break. Maybe you return to the argument, but more often than not there is still tension in the air, maybe you become passive-aggressive with one another and …
![When We Argue I Wonder if This is The Right Relationship For Me When two people come together, so do two completely different worlds. It is NORMAL for some arguments and differences to be resolved as you get closer and enter into more intimacy. This is part of the trust-building process. Can we be different and still stay connected and be curious about each other’s world? Can we disagree, and both still feel safe, physically, mentally and emotionally. You really get to know someone when you argue.](https://i0.wp.com/cdn1.jennynurick.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/04/1-10-scaled.jpg?fit=650%2C650&ssl=1)
When We Argue I Wonder if This is The Right Relationship For Me
When the Princess meets the Prince in the Disney movies, it is happily ever after. We don’t see the scenes a year on when they argue about when to have a child, where to live, and how much contact there …
![How to Reconnect After an Argument I felt pretty angry when we were having that conversation. I'm sorry if that pushed you away. I'm feeling quite disconnected right now and a bit scared. Could I have a hug? I'm not sure we resolved anything there. Could we try to discuss it again in a different way tomorrow? That was quite an intense discussion for me. Can we just sit together and have some tea? You feel distant after that conversation. Is there anything you need? Laugh about something unrelated. Talk about something else that is neutral for you both, like the gardening or a movie you watched.](https://i0.wp.com/cdn1.jennynurick.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/03/19_03_2021_How-to-Reconnect-After-an-Argument-copy-scaled.jpg?fit=650%2C650&ssl=1)
How to Reconnect After an Argument
We all know that uncomfortable few minutes after a heated discussion. The argument’s energy is hanging in the air, and you are both processing what was said. If your trauma response has been activated, you might be calming your nervous …
![One Tip That Will Change the Way You Argue Imagine we are in the middle of an argument, and I say, “You are so lazy, just like my father, no get up and go”. This is focused on the CHARACTER of the person. Now, if I shift this to “I noticed that you didn’t do any housework today”, that is BEHAVIOUR focused. When I address the behaviour, there is room to change; when I address the character, it is set in stone. When in conflict, focus on BEHAVIOUR.](https://i0.wp.com/cdn1.jennynurick.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/03/Screenshot-2021-02-28-at-19.00.14.png?fit=318%2C269&ssl=1)
One Tip That Will Change the Way You Argue
There is a difference being attacking someone’s CHARACTER and attacking their BEHAVIOUR. When we are critical of someone’s character it is much more personal attack. When we attack a behaviour, there is more of a sense that the behaviour can …