From my years of working on myself and with my clients, I have come to understand feelings as messengers. I often see them as little children, desperately wanting and needing something from me—the bigger the feeling, the stronger the message. …
Tag: Anxiety
What is Attachment Anxiety?
Attachment anxiety is when we learn as children that we can’t depend on the adults around us, so we adapt our behaviour to suit the situation we are experiencing in that relationship to stay alive, fed and loved. One adaptation …
Anxiety Has Physical Symptoms
If you have suffered from anxiety, you will know that anxiety is NOT only in your head. You might feel worried or nervous about mundane events and find it interferes with your day-to-day life. Anxiety can cause a range of …
How to Stop Catastrophising
I grew up with anxiety around me. It was in the air, in the voices of the adults around me. I know anxiety well. Anxiety still visits me when I have an interview, when I have to do a video …
Catastrophising
Anxiety builds up when we catastrophise. Catastrophising is when we imagine that terrible things are going to happen to us in our imagined future. It might be imagining that you are going to lose your job, that your partner will …
Reversing The Cycle of Anxiety
At its core, anxiety is worrying about something that MIGHT happen. We scan the environment for threats and gauge ourselves to see if we will be able to cope with the threat. When you feel your anxiety, you decide that …
Anxiety or Anxiety Disorder?
You might not know that there is a big difference between anxiety and an anxiety disorder. Most of us will experience anxiety on and off, but how do you know when anxiety has become a real problem for you? Anxiety …
Why Attachment Matters
IS THIS THE REASON YOU STRUGGLE IN YOUR INTIMATE RELATIONSHIPS? As children, we are like sponges. Our brain grows to 80% of its adult size by the time we are two! At times the neurons are growing at a rate …
Is It Normal To Feel Anxious If I haven’t Heard From Them?
I just want to let you know that if you haven’t heard from him in 4 days, you are right to feel anxious! That’s a long time. Securely attached people will also find that odd. Even at the beginning of …
How to Speak to Someone with Anxiety
???? When faced with someone experiencing high anxiety, rather than giving advice, which can feel invalidating, a better approach is to seek to understand how it is for the person. Let them know you are with them, and they are …