In every distressed relationship, there are patterns—sequences of behavior that continuously feed the conflict and distance between partners. Identifying these cycles is the crucial first step in therapy. When we recognize these patterns as they occur, we open the door …
How Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy Helps Couples Reconnect
💬 “When couples fight, it’s not just about dishes or who said what. It’s about disconnection—and the longing to feel safe, loved, and understood again.” In this podcast, I explore how Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy (EFCT) uses attachment science to …
What is “Parts Work”?
Ever wonder why you react the way you do? “Parts Work” explores the different facets of your personality. Learn how understanding these internal “parts” can lead to profound healing and self-acceptance. Discover how to transform triggers into opportunities for growth. …
Advocating for Yourself During Medical Procedures
It’s okay to: Remember: You are allowed to take the time you need to give your full consent. Your dentist, doctor, gynaecologist, and surgeon are there to support you. Yes, they are more knowledgeable than you in many areas, but …
Are You Terrified of the Dentist?
My first traumatic medical experience was at the dentist. I was having four healthy teeth removed so I could have braces fitted. This was standard practice in the UK then, but not now. I remember the taste of the injections, …
Medical Trauma
🧠Medical trauma isn’t just about what happened, it’s about how it was experienced by the child. Even the most well-intentioned care can leave lasting emotional wounds if not met with safety, clarity, and support. If this resonates with you, …
A Trauma-Informed Perspective
When we meet someone who has experienced trauma, it helps to hold a dual lens. The first lens meets the behaviour—often the protective system that person has developed to stay safe. This might look like withdrawal, anger, or a refusal …
Post Traumatic Growth
Have you ever heard the phrase – ‘breakdown to breakthrough?’ We often talk about the pain of trauma and a breakdown, but not enough about what can emerge on the other side, a breakthrough. 🌱 Post-Traumatic Growth is about what …
Peter Levine Quote
Recovery from trauma is the norm. But sometimes, for different reasons, the trauma gets stuck. It doesn’t get processed through the nervous system, the body and the mind in the way it needs to be processed and integrated. This can …
Every Healthy Choice
Self-love isn’t just about how you feel about yourself, it’s also what you do for yourself. It’s about what you choose. ✨ Saying no to temporary comfort…Because you’re saying yes to your long-term wellbeing. It’s not always pretty.It’s not always …