What is Earned Secure Attachment?
Earned secure attachment is when someone develops secure, healthy relationship patterns in adulthood despite having experienced insecure attachments in their early years.
How do you know if you have Earned Secure Attachment?
When you have earned secure attachment you can reflect on your challenging early attachment experiences in a balanced and coherent manner, having worked through these difficulties. This balanced perspective is achieved through therapy, reflective work, and forming subsequent secure relationships that can serve as new models of attachment.
How can you cultivate Earned Secure Attachment?
It happens through your relationship with yourself and with others. Therapy can play a pivotal role in this transformation, providing a safe space and a supportive relationship that facilitates healing and the development of secure attachment behaviours and beliefs.
The Future?
Those with earned secure attachment are more likely to engage in healthy parenting practices and form fulfilling romantic relationships, similar to individuals with continuous secure attachment.
