Most of us focus on the negative, what’s not working. We walk around feeling this lack within us most of the time. It can become a habit of thinking. As an experiment, just for today, focus on what you are …
Category: Wellness
When People Rage, They Are Suffering
What does it mean to suffer? There are many ways we can suffer. We can suffer physically with pain, mentally with mental illness or rumination, or spiritually with a lack of meaning or moral dilemma. Suffering is part of the …
The Five Components of Compassion
wonder what might stop you from connecting with another person’s suffering? Is it the thought that you will be dragged into their suffering? Is it fear that you will be agreeing with them on some level? Is it fear of …
Whenever You Feel Desperate To Be Chosen, It’s a Deep Calling To Choose Yourself
Big shout out to Tory Eletto @nytherapist – she’s one of the therapists I’ve been following from the beginning, and I LOVE her work. Like – every post! So, how do you choose yourself? Like Dr Richard Schwartz (founder of …
Blaming Partner
When in conflict, if you have an anxious adaptation, it is common to get into a pattern of feeling alone and hopeless in your relationship. Rather than give up, you might find yourself becoming critical of your partner and pursuing …
Unmasking Attachment Anxiety
Attachment anxiety is when we learn as children that we can’t depend on the adults around us, so we adapt our behaviour to suit the situation we are experiencing in that relationship to stay alive, fed and loved. One adaptation …
A Stephanie Kramer Quote
Leave a comment if you have tried to do it all alone. The part of this quote that hits me is the last line, ‘not alone’. Living in a culture that revers the individual over the collective, it is easy …
The Physical Symptoms Of Anxiety
If you have suffered from anxiety, you will know that anxiety is NOT only in your head. You might feel worried or nervous about mundane events and find it interferes with your day-to-day life. Anxiety can cause a range of …
The Art of Deep Rest
In the last post about deep rest, a few people asked me how to do it. We know we are deeply rested when our nervous system, body and mind feel calm. There is a sense of letting go and of …
”Outside-In” Referencing for the Anxiously Attached
If you resonate with this pattern of outside-in referencing, let me know in the comments. It is one of the indications of anxious attachment. love Jen x P.s. If you feel anxious in relationships, I have a book coming out …