Hard truth – therapy is often uncomfortable. It is also empowering. It is empowering to see ourselves reflected back to us with compassion we may not be able to hold for ourselves. It is empowering to get another perspective on …
Category: Wellness
Stigma Surrounding Therapy
What words of encouragement would you offer someone thinking of going to therapy and getting some help?
Complex Trauma
I would love to re-name personality disorders and call them personality adaptations, because that is what many of them are, and it stands to reason that the worse the trauma, the more extreme the adaptations. If any of this speaks …
Core Childhood Needs
When attuned parents raise children, they develop a healthy attachment style of relating in intimate relationships. When a child’s needs are not met, the child will develop ‘early maladaptive schemas’ (EMS). This term is used in Schema Therapy, one of …
Healing Affirmations to Support Yourself After a Breakup
Going through a breakup can be one of the most difficult and painful times. There can be such an overwhelming feeling of disappointment, going over moments and scenes in your head, wondering if you could / should have been different. …
Unlocking TRUE Self-Awareness
True self-awareness takes courage. We have to be ready to look within and find things we don’t like and perhaps feel unable to change. This is why the practice of a form of COMPASSIONATE self-awareness is so important. The practice …
What is Self-Acceptance?
Self-acceptance is a deep awareness of your strengths and weaknesses and a feeling of satisfaction despite past behaviours, choices and areas where you feel you are lacking. It is about embracing ALL parts of self and accepting self unconditionally.When we …
Understanding Self-Awareness
Dr. Tasha Eurich in her research differentiates between internal and external self-awareness. While gathering external data we have to bear in mind that the other person is seeing you through their own lens, so it is not objective. Of course, …
Becoming a Congruent Parent
When parents are INCONGRUENT, children learn:To doubt their version of reality.To not trust themselves and even things they see and hear.That people are not honest or safe.When parents are CONGRUENT, children learn:To trust themselves.To trust other people.How to own their …
Boundaries & Mental Health
Let me say it again – you are not responsible for someone else’s mental health. To be clear, I am not talking about abuse. If you are verbally, physically, mentally or emotionally abusive, then you ARE responsible. If you are …