We all have repeating patterns or ‘cycles’ in our family of origin. It might be repeating patterns of failed marriages, drug and alcohol problems, or family conflict. You become a cycle breaker when you first see the cycle and …
Category: Wellness
7 Questions for the Avoidantly Attached
If you are avoidant and ready to challenge yourself – here are the questions to ask. Remember that for avoidant people, you have learned NOT to reach out for support. Nobody has been there to hold you in the way …
Steps Forward in the Anxious/Avoidant Dynamic
We are always learning each other in relationship. We learn about our partner’s history, preferences, triggers and attachment style. And, of course, we are constantly learning about ourselves. Remember that all of the attachment styles exist on a spectrum. That …
Benefits of Being Assertive
Here’s a note about assertiveness and why it’s often the best course of action, even though it might feel scary. Assertiveness is when we have strong self-esteem and maintain healthy boundaries. Assertive communication is direct and clear and makes space …
Meditation And The Brain
This research paper is an oldie but a goodie. I love it because it shows how the body is directly linked to the mind. When people do less with their minds, their brain tissue responds, and certain brain areas change …
Effects Of Meditation Rival Antidepressants for Depression & Anxiety
I could list all of the benefits of meditation, but you know them. There is something else that blocks you from actually meditating. The truth is that when you first sit down to meditate, it is likely to be uncomfortable. …
You Are The Gift
A little gift to share on Christmas Day. As Christmas day can come with many expectations and disappointments, you might like to take time to take care of your younger parts before, during, and after the festivities. I hope your …
The Neurobiological Impact of Trauma
This repository of emotion, felt sensations and memories go on to form what in IFS (Internal Family Systems) are called ‘parts’. Each part is frozen in time and space. So the traumatised 6-year-old will feel like they did when they …
Feeding Seva
Today, I helped to feed over 5,000 people in Southern India. In Hinduism, seva means selfless service done with love. It was such a wonderful experience. I was responsible for filling all the water cups on one side of a …