We Choose Avoidant Partners: An Internal Family Systems Perspective

‘Many of you may feel stuck in a painful cycle—repeatedly choosing avoidant or emotionally distant partners despite craving closeness. You might wonder why you always feel unseen, unheard, or unimportant in relationships. When you feel this way, it is common to start to feel anxious. You might start to overanalyse every text, feel anxious when they pull away or struggle with self-doubt, worried that you are either “too much” or “not enough.” Perhaps you constantly seek reassurance, only to be met with distance, leaving you feeling abandoned, rejected, or unworthy of love.”

This podcast explores why this happens through the lens of Internal Family Systems (IFS) or parts work and how we can heal.

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Enjoy, Jen