This can be a painful one because it can be a trigger from childhood if you felt misunderstood by your family. Your partner is not likely to understand all of your feelings all of the time. Maybe you don’t either! You don’t have to make sense all of the time. Learning to love yourself through this and allowing them to love you and hold space for you.
Tip: Tell them how you are feeling and what you need from them. If they don’t understand, maybe they can love you and give you a hug.
We come into most intimate relationships with a long list of conscious and unconscious expectations. Some gathered from the movies and totally unrealistic and some gathered from our lived experience and parents and unhealthy.
Any robust relationship requires work from both people, and remembering some of these unrealistic expectations may help to take the pressure off a bit.
Which one stood out for you?
Love, Jen
