Next time your partner is hurting — listen. When they show emotion — say, “tell me more.” When they offer feedback — lean in with curiosity. When they reach for you — be there. Because presence is love in action. …
Tag: TraumaHealing
Maybe You Don’t Notice Your Progress Because You’re Always Raising Your Bar
“Maybe you don’t notice your progress because you’re always raising your bar.” And that right there healed me a little. — Unknown If you keep raising the bar, you’ll never feel your wins. Pause for a moment and let yourself …
The Wait Will Make Sense Once the Right Thing Arrives
The universe is never late, just precise. What’s taking time is often taking shape. You can be in-between and still be in purpose. Not all movement is forward — some of it is inward. Holding out for what’s true is …
You’re Not Breaking — You’re Growing Wings
I sometimes wonder what the caterpillar’s last thought was before it was forced to let go into the goo of forever being changed. My guess is that it probably was not,‘I bet after this, I can fly.’ — Dr. Cassie …
A Father’s Day Reflection: To The Men Who Show Up
A few months ago, I did an intense spiritual cleanse to support my hormonal system. It involved fasting, meditation, and daily group sessions with sacred medicine. On the first day, I walked into a room full of women, and something …
They Were Just Broken — But That Doesn’t Make It Okay
Me, to my therapist:“But they weren’t evil. They were just broken. They had their own trauma.” My therapist:“And that’s valid. But let me ask you something… did their trauma give them the right to create new trauma inside you?” And …
When You Realise You’re Not Reacting to Your Partner — You’re Reacting to Your Childhood
There is a moment in therapy that changes everything. It is the moment you realise that the reaction you are having right now is not really about your partner. It feels like it is. It looks like it is. But …
“Do You Love Me?” — When an Old Part of You Is Speaking
When you find yourself asking your partner again and again, “Do you love me?”, it’s not about being clingy or dramatic. Often, it’s an old part of you speaking. A younger part that once lived in uncertainty. A child who …
When Three Triggers in 24 Hours Brought My Six-Year-Old Self Forward
This week, I had a few things happen within a 24-hour period that triggered a younger part of me that says, “I’m in trouble.” I haven’t felt this part of me for ages, so it came as a surprise. I …