With time and focus, you CAN widen your window of tolerance. The key is being able to confront strong emotions without becoming so overwhelmed that they cannot be integrated. The safest way to do this is with the help of …
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Explaining the Window of Tolerance
Have you ever heard about the “Window of Tolerance”? Coined by Dr. Dan Siegel, it refers to the optimal zone where we handle life’s ups and downs most effectively. Inside this window, you can regulate your emotions smoothly, stay centered, …
Emotional Neglect
Emotional neglect is sometimes normalised in families. It might have been in the name of being ‘rational’, ‘successful’, ‘wealthy’, ‘busy’, or not ‘spoiling’ the children. Often, the parents have not been taught the language of emotional attunement. They are simply …
How Trauma Affects the Brain
Trauma affects the brain, especially the prefrontal cortex, amygdala and hippocampus. Ongoing trauma is associated with “lasting change in these brain areas” (Bremmer, 2006). When there is a potential threat, the amygdala sends an instant message to the hippocampus, activating …
What is developmental Trauma?
As children, we need a safe environment and loving caregivers so our brains develop in the way they are meant to. If that is missing, parts of the lower brain do not develop in the way they need to, and …
Is Noah (‘The Hot Rabbi’) Avoidant?
Here are some of my thoughts. I’d love to hear yours. Feel free to comment below. Love, Jen
Attachment Trauma
A holistic approach to trauma defines attachment injury/wounding not as an event or a challenged relationship, but rather as a disruption and overwhelm to our body-mind’s capacity to feel safe, secure, cared for, and consistently connected with. Attachment trauma may …
The Cycle Breakers Circle
his is the cycle we all go through on any healing journey. We need to discover where we are stuck and what we inherited from our parents and childhood. Then we need to attend to and heal those wounded parts, …
Powerful Phrases To Say When Someone Is Emotional
Some powerful phrases for when someone you love is feeling emotional: There’s no hurry. Take your time I’m here, and I want to know how it is for you You make sense What you are feeling makes sense I’m here …