Relationships take work. They need to be fed and nurtured in order to remain satisfying for both parties. Often the process of drifting apart is gradual. When we find ourselves growing apart, we need to decide if we are going …
Tag: psychotherapy
Conflict as an Opportunity
The curiosity here is around reactivity, and when fight, flight or freeze might take over for either of you in the relationship. This is a conversation that needs to happen when you are NOT in the middle of an argument. …
Knowing How To Pause During a Conflict
Storming out during an argument is not a great way to take a break. Maybe you return to the argument, but more often than not there is still tension in the air. Maybe you become passive-aggressive with one another and …
Pausing During a Conflict
According to the Gottman’s, 69% of relationship arguments are unsolvable, so it no surprise that they can cause so much frustration. Have you ever been in a situation where you are both feeling unheard, and misunderstood and you are both …
Relational Conflict
Have you ever wondered why you end up fighting your partner over and over again about the same thing, a different situation, but the same topic? Let’s take a typical example, money. It might be that in your relationship, you …
Working with Gratitude
Gratitude has the power to change your day completely! I had an experience a while back where I was feeling quite overwhelmed. I went for a walk in the bush and found that although I was in nature, my mind …
Practicing Gratitude
For me, gratitude brings me into the moment, into the now. When I am genuinely grateful for what I am witnessing, doing, being, being with, being offered, receiving. At any moment, there is always so much to be grateful for. …
Stress Management Tips
What do you do to self-soothe when you are stressed? Do you pick up a drink? Do you find yourself in front of the cupboard tucking into a whole packet of dark chocolate McVities Digestives (for the Brits reading this)? …