Shame is a painful emotion that is created because of a sense of failure to meet a certain standard. It sounds like: “I’m a failure, I’m a terrible person, I’m useless”. They are absolute statements about the self that make …
Tag: mental heath
Suicide Statistics In Australia
Trigger warning for the next few days as we delve into the realities of suicide. When I look at these statistics, I feel really sad. If suicide rates can be taken to be somehow reflective of how we are doing …
Mental Illness Is The Result Of Normal Adaptations To Unhealthy Situations
Knowing that mental illness is the result of normal adaptations to unhealthy situations became clear to me when I read “The Boy Who was Raised as a Dog” by Dr. Bruce Perry. Trigger warning for this book – it does …
A Few Tips To Handle Gaslighting At Work
Gaslighting at work can ruin your confidence and career. I have seen it. The behaviour is easier to manage if there are other people in the office who see what is going on. It is much more difficult when one …
Trauma and Staying Connected
When we have experienced a trauma there might be an impulse to push people away, to feel shame around the trauma. To feel as though “I should be stronger than this”, or “why is this still affecting me? What is …
Why do Service?
George Vaillant conducted a thirty-year study of a group of Harvard graduates that found that adopting an altruistic lifestyle is a critical component of good mental health. David McClelland, a psychologist at Harvard, showed a group of students a film …