Tag: healing journey

GETTING TO KNOW YOUR INNER CHILD Who do they like to spend time with? What do they like to do? What TV shows do they enjoy? Who do they feel safe with? Who are they scared of? What do they need when they are around those scary people? What do they need when you are stressed or sad? What lights them up? If they could do anything with you tomorrow, what would it be?

Getting to Know Your Inner Child

June 19, 2022

When I first met my inner child doing an inner child meditation similar to the one in the ‘Meet your Inner Child’ short course, she was about 16, sitting on a wall, wearing knee-length leather boots, smoking a cigarette with …

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“When we talk to ourselves in our head, we have the opportunity to punish ourselves or be the parent we never had. It’s our choice.” – JENNIFER NURICK

Negative Thinking

June 19, 2022

Sometimes it can feel like it is impossible to stop the negative thinking. I know. I have been there. When nothing, like nothing, works.  It happens mostly when we are stressed or anxious about a particular topic and our mind …

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Things our Inner Child likes to hear: Things our Inner Child likes to hear: It’s okay, we made a mistake. I’m here for you It’s okay to have fun. You need time to play It’s okay if you feel scared. I’m here for you It’s not okay to be spoken to like that. I’ll put a boundary in place I love you just as you are I love you no matter what mistakes you make I respect you You are beautiful on the inside and outside You are a wonderful person You didn’t deserve what happened to you I’m sorry that happened to you

Things Our Inner Child Likes To Hear:

June 19, 2022

Part of the re-parenting process is the process of shifting our self-talk.  I like to imagine that whenever I think something in my head, I am talking to myself and my inner child. I have a rule: If I wouldn’t …

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Reconnection to the Inner Child

Reconnection to the Inner Child

June 19, 2022

Children are naturally creative. They have to be creative to survive in the world and learn about the world. They hear a new noise and want to find out what it is, see something new, and explore its taste, feel …

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FATHERS & SONS When a father is emotionally unavailable to his son, the son lacks a healthy male role model. He might struggle to deal with emotions in an effective way Struggle to know what a healthy boundary is and know how to put it in place Feel confused about what it is to be male in the world Use peers as role models rather than parents Experience low self-esteem He might fight to be different to his father He might inadvertently become just like his father, then experience self-hatred Struggle with male friendships Shut down his emotional self and numb Feel he is unworthy of his father’s attention

Fathers and Sons

June 19, 2022

After reading the last two posts, many people have asked, “What about the men?” How do men respond to the father wound? Of course, everyone’s response to any disconnection is different, so the core thing to remember is that there …

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Recognising The Father Wound THE PROTECTOR (creates a hard shell) I don’t need his love; I’ll shut down my deep yearning to be close. I’ll try to punish him for not loving me. I’ll be tough. I find weakness repulsive. I don’t care what he thinks or wants. I’ll do what I like (rebel). As an adult tends to: Deny own deep need to be loved and accepted Be wary of men Expect to be rejected by men Keeps one foot in and one foot out of relationships Can be called “hard to get to know.”

Recognising The Father Wound

June 19, 2022

The father wound is passed down through family lines. It comes about because of the father’s unhealed trauma and inner wounds. Without healing, these wounds are passed to his children. All children are hard-wired for love. Children yearn for the …

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“Sure, there are bad fathers, but for every one of those, there are 20 who just didn't have the words, the example, or the culture of being close to their children, and who emotionally starved to death as a consequence.” Steve Biddulph “Healing the Father Wound”

A Powerful Quite From Steve Biddulph

June 7, 2022

When I read this, I feel for my father. My dad was 52 when I was born. He was older than my grandparents. He fought in WWII; my grandparents were too young. He came from a completely different era to …

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5 Tips for Gaslighting at Work: Document the dates, times and specifics of the events on a personal phone or laptop. If necessary, notify HR. Know your truth. Don’t be manipulated into doubting yourself and what you know to be true. A great way to check this out is to check in with other people in the office. Always meet the gaslighter with other people present so they can corroborate your version of events. Check-in with yourself about staying in this job. Is the stress worth it? It might seem like the gaslighter wins if you leave, but is this true? Do YOU win if you go? Is that the final boundary around what you will and will not accept? Put as much as possible in writing so there is a paper trail of ideas, meeting changes etc., that cannot later be refuted.

5 Tips to help you with Gaslighting at Work:

June 7, 2022

Gaslighting at work can ruin your confidence and career. I have seen it. The behaviour is easier to manage if other people in the office see what is happening. It is much more difficult when one person is singled out …

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Family Dynamics in the workplace

Family Dynamics in the Workplace

June 7, 2022

Has anyone here run away from your family of origin, only to find the same dynamics being played out at work? For many people, the answer is YES!!! Why is that? In my view, this is our psyche trying to …

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GASLIGHTING AT WORK might look and sound like:

Gaslighting At Work Might Look And Sound Like:

June 7, 2022

I have seen gaslighting at work destroy lives and create total misery. Gaslighting is a power game and a form of emotional abuse, where one person’s version of reality is denied by denying facts, memories, interpretation of events, or feelings. …

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