Nathanson (1992) presents a fabulous tool to show us how shame shows up. When we look at the middle axis of withdrawal and avoidance, we see two different behaviours. With withdrawal, there is hiding and disconnection. We know from research …
Tag: Guilt
The VITAL Differences Between Shame And Guilt
In everyday language we often use the terms shame and guilt interchangeably, but research shows that there is a BIG difference between the two. Shame is more toxic than guilt. Why? Research has shown that shame is more focused on …
When is Guilt Appropriate?
This gem came up in a therapy session many years ago. When my therapist said it to me, I asked her to repeat it so I could digest what she had just said. Yep…one of those moments. I was feeling …
Dealing with Separation Anxiety
As I sit here listening to my children jumping on the trampoline and giggling at each other I wonder how I can be about to leave them for two and a half weeks. I leave in two days for India …