Having an unavailable father usually provokes one of two reactions. 1)𝐏𝐮𝐬𝐡 𝐡𝐢𝐦 𝐚𝐰𝐚𝐲, “I don’t need his love”. Here we punish him, withdraw and close down. We stop expecting anything from him to protect ourselves from being hurt. Maybe …
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Fathers and Sons
After reading the last two posts, many people have asked, “What about the men?” How do men respond to the father wound? Of course, everyone’s response to any disconnection is different, so the core thing to remember is that there …
Recognising The Father Wound
The father wound is passed down through family lines. It comes about because of the father’s unhealed trauma and inner wounds. Without healing, these wounds are passed to his children. All children are hard-wired for love. Children yearn for the …
The Unavailable Father
So much of the literature in mental health and psychology has focused on the mother and attachment with the mother. But what about our fathers? As children, we need a healthy father figure. It doesn’t have to be a biological …
A Powerful Quite From Steve Biddulph
When I read this, I feel for my father. My dad was 52 when I was born. He was older than my grandparents. He fought in WWII; my grandparents were too young. He came from a completely different era to …
8 Signs Reparenting Would be Helpful:
Wherever you are in your #healingjourney, reparenting is part of it. When we have been raised by adults who didn’t know how to regulate their nervous system, who did not have the skills to role model healthy boundaries or conflict …
10 Signs You Have a ‘Father Wound’
Much of the literature in mental health and psychology has focused on the mother and the mother’s attachment. But what about our fathers? As children, we need a healthy father figure. It doesn’t have to be a biological father, it …
Male and Female Archetypes
What do you think about this idea of your mother as being the first archetypal woman and your father, the first archetypal man in your life? It makes sense that we would organise our expectations around these roles and archetypes …
10 Signs You Have A Father Wound
Much of the literature in mental health and psychology has focused on the mother and the mother’s attachment. But what about our fathers? As children, we need a healthy father figure. It doesn’t have to be a biological father, it …