Having an unavailable father usually provokes one of two reactions. 1)𝐏𝐮𝐬𝐡 𝐡𝐢𝐦 𝐚𝐰𝐚𝐲, “I don’t need his love”. Here we punish him, withdraw and close down. We stop expecting anything from him to protect ourselves from being hurt. Maybe …
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![Recognising The Father Wound THE PROTECTOR (creates a hard shell) I don’t need his love; I’ll shut down my deep yearning to be close. I’ll try to punish him for not loving me. I’ll be tough. I find weakness repulsive. I don’t care what he thinks or wants. I’ll do what I like (rebel). As an adult tends to: Deny own deep need to be loved and accepted Be wary of men Expect to be rejected by men Keeps one foot in and one foot out of relationships Can be called “hard to get to know.”](https://i0.wp.com/cdn1.jennynurick.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/06/1-5-scaled.jpg?fit=650%2C650&ssl=1)
Recognising The Father Wound
The father wound is passed down through family lines. It comes about because of the father’s unhealed trauma and inner wounds. Without healing, these wounds are passed to his children. All children are hard-wired for love. Children yearn for the …
![THE UNAVAILABLE FATHER You either pushed him away, “I don’t need his love”, and denied your deep need to be loved, OR you would do anything to gain his attention and approval, even if you abandoned yourself in the process. Are you still doing this with other men in your life?](https://i0.wp.com/cdn1.jennynurick.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/06/06_06_2022_BLUE_Father-Dynamics-copy-scaled.jpg?fit=650%2C650&ssl=1)
The Unavailable Father
So much of the literature in mental health and psychology has focused on the mother and attachment with the mother. But what about our fathers? As children, we need a healthy father figure. It doesn’t have to be a biological …
![“Sure, there are bad fathers, but for every one of those, there are 20 who just didn't have the words, the example, or the culture of being close to their children, and who emotionally starved to death as a consequence.” Steve Biddulph “Healing the Father Wound”](https://i0.wp.com/cdn1.jennynurick.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/06/05_06_2022_CREAM_Steve-Biddulph-quote-copy-scaled.jpg?fit=650%2C650&ssl=1)
A Powerful Quite From Steve Biddulph
When I read this, I feel for my father. My dad was 52 when I was born. He was older than my grandparents. He fought in WWII; my grandparents were too young. He came from a completely different era to …
![8 Signs Reparenting Would be Helpful to Me: I often abandon myself by putting others needs first I struggle to put in place healthy boundaries that protect my energy I have angry outbursts that feel like tantrums I struggle to keep promises to myself and others I have a deep sense of not being good enough Most of my relationships are co-dependent and dysfunctional I look outside myself for validation and acceptance I struggle with love addiction or other types of addictions](https://i0.wp.com/cdn1.jennynurick.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/02/1-2-scaled.jpg?fit=650%2C650&ssl=1)
8 Signs Reparenting Would be Helpful:
Wherever you are in your #healingjourney, reparenting is part of it. When we have been raised by adults who didn’t know how to regulate their nervous system, who did not have the skills to role model healthy boundaries or conflict …
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10 Signs You Have a ‘Father Wound’
Much of the literature in mental health and psychology has focused on the mother and the mother’s attachment. But what about our fathers? As children, we need a healthy father figure. It doesn’t have to be a biological father, it …
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Male and Female Archetypes
What do you think about this idea of your mother as being the first archetypal woman and your father, the first archetypal man in your life? It makes sense that we would organise our expectations around these roles and archetypes …