Tag: Connection

3 Tips to Change How You argue

April 18, 2021

This video has some AMAZING tips to revolutionise the way you have conflict in your relationship

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It is time to stop expecting people to show up for you who don’t have the capacity to do it? Have you ever wasted time expecting people to show up for you who don’t have the capacity to do it? It’s like waiting for the sky to rain candy. No matter how much you love the sky, it simply doesn’t have the capacity to rain candy. You can stand there and wait and wait, but you are setting yourself up to be let down.

Is It Time To Stop Expecting People to Show-Up for You Who Don’t Have The Capacity To Do It?

April 13, 2021

Tough question: When we are feeling let down by someone, ask yourself this question, ‘do they have the capacity to show up for me in the way I need?’  If the answer is ‘no’, they can’t show up for me …

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How to Reconnect After an Argument I felt pretty angry when we were having that conversation. I'm sorry if that pushed you away. I'm feeling quite disconnected right now and a bit scared. Could I have a hug? I'm not sure we resolved anything there. Could we try to discuss it again in a different way tomorrow? That was quite an intense discussion for me. Can we just sit together and have some tea? You feel distant after that conversation. Is there anything you need? Laugh about something unrelated. Talk about something else that is neutral for you both, like the gardening or a movie you watched.

How to Reconnect After an Argument

March 19, 2021

We all know that uncomfortable few minutes after a heated discussion. The argument’s energy is hanging in the air, and you are both processing what was said. If your trauma response has been activated, you might be calming your nervous …

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The Lost Art of Eating and Connecting Deciding who will cook, set the table and do the dishes at the end – dividing up the tasks, so they are spread equitably through the family. Taking time to enjoy the cooking process – playing music, cooking as a couple or a family. No screens at the table – to facilitate connection and communication Taking time to ask each other about your day Going around the table and sharing something you enjoyed from the day, something you learned and something that was a problem. This can be a time to share important things to us or have a giggle as a family. When done regularly, eating and connecting as a family daily can be the glue that keeps the family connected.

The Lost Art of Eating and Connecting

March 5, 2021

I grew up eating my dinner with a tray on my lap in front of the TV watching Neighbours (an Ozzie TV show that we LOVED in the UK with Kylie Minogue ????). We were together as a family, but …

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Sleep and Waking Rituals for Connection Before going to sleep Cuddling A six-second kiss Sharing funny stories from your day Share some herbal tea and a light chat Read to one another Express love and gratitude to one another Both share and focus on one thing you are grateful for Waking Rituals Cuddle for a few minutes Ask how the other person slept Make and eat breakfast together Tell your partner something you love about them Meditate together for 15 minutes Exercise together

Sleep and Waking Rituals for Connection

March 5, 2021

When you are an early bird in a relationship with a night owl, you potentially miss out on many opportunities for connection. You might find less time to talk, less intimacy, less touch, and at worst, you are living like …

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Relationship Rituals to Help with Connection Eat one meal a day without screens Spend at least 15 minutes a day actively listening to your partner, sharing openly in intimate conversation. Tell your partner what you love about them Exercise together Share a six-second kiss Go on dates Hug and kiss when you say goodbye and reunite at the end of the day. Intentionally create moments of connection

Relationship Rituals to Help with Connection

March 5, 2021

Relationship rituals help with co-regulation. When you are in an intimate relationship with someone, your nervous systems will attune with one another, either creating co-regulation or dysregulation. When connection is strong in the relationship, if one person is dysregulated, the …

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How to Escape the Toxic Criticism and Defensiveness Cycle Criticism: “You are so lazy and disrespectful; you leave all your dirty clothes all over the place.” Antidote: “I” statements: “I feel _________ about __________. I need ___________.” “I feel upset and sad when you leave your dirty clothes on the floor. I need you to put them in the basket.” Defensiveness: “It’s just a few things at the end of the day, nothing to get so worked up about.” Antidote: Taking some responsibility, even if it is just a little. “I hear you are annoyed/sad; I can be a bit messy sometimes.” Remember: Listen, validate, accept some responsibility, what can we / I change?

How to Escape the Toxic Criticism and Defensiveness Cycle

February 24, 2021

When someone comes at you with criticism, the natural response is to defend. Criticism is a form of attack, so it is natural to protect instinctively unless you know how criticism and defensiveness play out in a relationship. Those of …

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Number 1 - CONNECTION – being with supportive people, not isolating, accepting help, joining a group that could build joy in your life. Number 2 - NURTURE WELLBEING – get a minimum of 7 hours sleep a night, eat plenty of fruit and veg, exercise, meditate. Number 3 – PURPOSE – do service, help others, have realistic goals Number 4 – HEALTHY MIND SPACE – Try some CBT techniques, learn to accept what you can’t change, look for the positive, start a gratitude practice.

4 Tips for Building Resilience

February 24, 2021

Resilience is “the process of adapting well in the face of adversity, trauma, tragedy, threats or significant sources of stress” and can be developed by everyone.⁣⁠???????????????? ???????????? ???????????????? ???????????????????????????? ???????????????????????????? ???????????????????? ???????? ???????????????????????????????????????? ????????????????????????????????:⁣⁠⁣⁠What can I do to increase connection …

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What to AVOID when Speaking Your Partner’s Love Language

What to AVOID when Speaking Your Partner’s Love Language

December 30, 2020

You might find that the thing your partner complains most about not receiving from you, is one of their main love languages. For example, your partner might frequently complain about you being home late. They might get upset when you …

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How to Give Your Partner the Gift of Words of Affirmation

How to Give Your Partner the Gift of Words of Affirmation

December 28, 2020

Words of affirmation can be incredibly powerful for people who received a lot of criticism as children. For them to hear that they are appreciated and loved for who they are is deeply affirming and healing. It allows them to …

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